Before we actually break up with our partner, our body already knows this – at least that’s the result of a long-term study by the Technical University of Braunschweig on the topic of “arguing”.

Mrs. Darling says: If you’re in love, you have butterflies in your stomach. If you are disappointed in your partner, you have a lump in your throat. If you feel insecure with your partner, you get a sinking feeling in your stomach. Our body is our seismograph. A long-term study has now found that he actually knows about the separation much earlier than we admit to ourselves. For the study, 68 couples bickered in front of the camera for eleven years. After that, almost a third of them were separated. Those couples parted ways whose wives got a much higher, shrill voice than the others when arguing. Therefore Attention, dear women: Listen carefully when you quarrel with your partner. If you are nagging, you not only have a real problem in your relationship, but you are also on the verge of leaving. But if you don’t want to draw a line under it yet, you should urgently seek professional help now. Either alone – or preferably with your partner.

Mr. Schatz says: For women, it’s important to listen carefully when arguing. But what does our body say when the relationship with our partner stresses us out? Above all, it releases the stress hormone cortisol. It’s just a shame that we don’t easily recognize when we’re flooded with this hormone. You can’t just have blood drawn after every drink to measure your stress level. However, constant stress and constant quarrels – i.e. a constant excess of corstisol – weaken the immune system and make you sick. But we men just want to be strong. So, menTake care of yourselves. The best way to help is to talk, talk, talk and stand by our feelings. Even if – to be honest – it’s difficult. For example, with the couple conversation. Once a week, everyone is allowed to talk about themselves for 15 minutes without being interrupted. Then it’s the other person’s turn with his worries and joys. Sounds strange, but it works wonders.

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