Women don’t say what they want. Men don’t listen. According to a recent study by the online dating agency ElitePartner, these are the most annoying quirks in a partnership. And then also: always this sex!
Ms. Liebling: It’s not like we women never think about sex. In the office, while working boringly at the computer, it goes through my head, the fantasy of a hot night with Mr. Schatz. I imagine how we fall ravenously over each other on warm summer evenings, all crazy from the heat and the sun in our heads. Or wish for a cute flower sex evening with pampering massage during a strenuous day. But then? I rush home and watch their homework while cooking for hungry mouths. Settle arguments and dry tears. The sex in the head melts away between freshly brushed teeth and still cold bed. For Mr. Schatz, a dry kiss remains for the good night. But the more often I reject him, the less he wants to make advances to me. So I try to set it up so that we can’t jump under the covers in the morning. What happens next is enough for a whole day’s program of “sex in the head”.
Mr. Schatz: If we’re honest, it’s always the one who doesn’t feel like it who decides on the frequency. Because then there’s simply no sex and that’s of course one less time. Which shouldn’t actually be a problem, but can become one if the roles become entrenched in the course of a partnership: If there is always one partner who demands and one who prevents. Because sex is based on the principle of voluntariness, which is often just the lowest common denominator out of habit – and runs the risk of suddenly becoming the greatest common sharer. Let’s have the courage to try new things. And be it the wonderfully unromantic feeling of arranging to meet Mrs. Liebling for sex, at a certain time in the middle of everyday life.
Courtesy of “TV Direkt”, one of the largest program guides in Germany with a circulation of around 1.2 million copies.
Liebling & Schatz are columnists there.
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