According to a study by Stanford University, 60 percent of all couples separate within the first twelve months. But with each passing year, the chances of the relationship lasting are getting better.
Mrs. Darling says: Love is blind, they say, or alternatively: couples in love see everything through rose-colored glasses. In view of this already impaired vision, it is actually all the more astonishing that, according to this study by the US sociologist Michael Rosenfeld, so many couples separate so quickly. But can the more than 3000 women and men surveyed really be wrong? No, dear women, and the result shows once again how independent we have become. Because we are no longer dependent on a male provider – like the generations before us – we now take a very close look at who we leave in bed and everyday life. And if it doesn’t fit, we’ve long been brave enough to get rid of it. But if we actually think that things are going in the right direction with the guy, we are also willing to compromise. We’re not stupid!
Mr. Schatz says: Again, that’s typical, Mrs Sánchez! Just look at the first twelve months and the undeniably breathtaking progress of female emancipation. But it is much more interesting what comes next, according to the study. Namely, that after the first year, the separation rate decreases rapidly and the value drops by another ten percent every year. For couples who have been together for five years, the risk of separation is only 20 percent. And after 20 years, it’s even less than one percent. In addition to the fact that not the seventh but the first year is the darned, the study by Stanford University wants to tell us one thing above all, men: Perseverance is worth it! And over time, there is even almost something like a relationship guarantee. Which is quite convenient for us people who don’t like change. By the way, in couples therapy, the initial blindness or rose-eyed nature of the lovers is called the “fascination phase”. If we survive this, the “getting-to-know-you” phase comes. And then clear vision is required again anyway.
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